We so often carry with us things which weigh us down, hold us back, or even become a sense of our identity. We sit with our woundedness, turning it over and around in our spirits, day after day with no intention of getting rid of it.
I had been hearing a lot about this Netflix show, Tidying Up with Marie Kondo, and a number of my friends have jumped into this KonMari craze. Are you familiar with this? The basic premise is to reduce your home to only those things which spark joy. Too often we have collected “stuff” in our homes, it gets out of control, and eventually we are controlled and overwhelmed by that “stuff” which gathers dust rather than sparking joy. Organizing and tidying according to Marie’s 6 rules, and focusing on the joy in life, is the KonMari method.
I recently watched a few shows and I’m all about it. As I watched, I was surprised at some of the things that people struggled to keep or get rid of, but full disclaimer: my personality is such that I don’t want a lot of things, and the handful of things that I like truly spark joy. Disclaimer 2: I may or may not have more bottles of bourbon than I really need, but again, they spark joy. Am I allowed to say that?
It would be easy enough to stop there and think that I’m doing pretty well.
I ought not stop. Neither should you.
In a conversation the other day, this KonMari concept came up on a spiritual level. We so often carry with us things which weigh us down, hold us back, or even become a sense of our identity. We sit with our woundedness, turning it over and around in our spirits, day after day with no intention of getting rid of it. We have a sort of attachment to some emotional, mental, and spiritual things even if it doesn’t make complete sense.
In keeping with the spirit of KonMari though: do those aspects of your life spark joy? As you sit with burdens, woundedness, hurts, and various baggage, I would assume it doesn’t spark joy.
If not, then why are you holding on to it? Why are you keeping it?
In just the few episodes that I watched, Marie Kondo asked these perceptive questions, which I would argue make her just as much a Spiritual Director as it does a tidying expert. Consider these questions in relation to those things that you are still holding on to in your spirit:
Does this spark joy in your life?
Is this something you would like to keep as a part of your life going forward?
Do you really need this?
Is it necessary for your life?
My guess is, while scary and uncharted, there are a lot of things that we all have been carrying around or holding on to that cause the opposite of joy, and we just don’t know what to do about them. Marie says to get rid of them. As you do, take a moment to say “thank you” for the role they played in who you are, but then let them go. Box them up and get them out of “your house.”
I know that my own physical clutter is minimal, but I’m sure that I need some KonMari principles in my spirit. I’m guessing I’m not the only one.
What do you need let go of? What have you been holding on to that doesn’t spark joy in any way? Say “thank you” and let it go.
Husband, father, pastor, and Steelers fan. Lover of coffee, dogs, and bourbon.